Now thats What I call Qatar 51: Shamina Update

Dear All,

After my blitz last week, its all be quite at www.stormy786.blogspot.com , that is because my mum has come to town, which means DDAY for me and Shamina...

Its realistically one of the last chances we have to get our well my parents on board before the planned engagement this summer. So I need and want to get my family on board ASAP so we can have a "normal" wedding, now this is going to be turn out in two ways and I will give both scenarios, either way after some hesitation I will most likely be marrying Shamina..

So Scenario 1:

I speak to my mum and she goes AWOL and just refuses to accept Shamina has her daughter-in-law which in turn means my sisters too will reject her as a sister in law and most likely my dad will join the masses and add to the rejection, this will result in me going Solo, and trying to convince her family, to take me on my own and not as part of a family(as is the norm in Bengali Weddings). This will be very hard to accomplish and if they do not come on board then it will most likely result in me and Shamina being unmarried and will go our different ways, as she believes without the support of either parents it was be too hard to have a successful marriage, and I do see where she is coming from.


Scenario 2:

I speak to my mum and after a long and emotional chat I manage to convince her to accept Shamina as her sole daughter in law, and therefore in turn my sisters will accept her as a sister in law and most likely my dad will join he masses and add to the acceptance. Then as a family we approach Shaminas family who duly accept me and my family, and then we plan the wedding and have a engagement in July.

Its so straightforward scenario 2 but its such a distant reality right now, its near impossible to convince my mum, I am a eternal opportunist however Shamina is the eternal pessimist and her pessism has got to me and im nervous as hell bout this. There is a part of me that thinks that playing the fact that im the only son, I might be able to convince my mum, however its a long shot.

This Friday im taking her to Ritz for Brunch, and I am thinking that the perfect time, in a beautiful surroundings with amazing food and company I will tell her that I plan to marry Shamina this summer, and I want her to be part of it.

For those of you that are married, I am so envious you have all of this process out of the way, as its really heart wrenching, the choices one has to make in life. When you think of all the stuff most parents have done for their kids, its impossible to throw that away over someone you have known for a few years, however when that person means alot to you, it becomes a plausible reality, however in a ideal world I would have both and iA this is my ideal world where I can have both. I will continue to be optimistic on our chances, and Only time will tell if the glass is half full or half empty...

Take care

Asif